Which Version of “You” Are You Bringing Home? – Business Times Column #101

by Marcus

Marcus Straub

Marcus Straub

In a previous column, I elaborated on a number of potential negative outcomes associated with bringing personal baggage to work. I described the fall even long-term top performers experience when they’re unable to effectively manage their personal issues. I also explored the domino effect these uncontrolled issues can have on fellow team members, customers and the business as a whole.

 In this column, I’ll explore the opposite situation. When people bring their professional baggage home, their personal lives also are affected in very real ways. This creates ripple effects felt far and wide. Perhaps you know of a spouse, child or friend of a person who’s unable — or simply lacks the tools — to manage their professional lives effectively. The adverse effects of this situation can damage and even destroy marriages, alienate children and cause others to avoid these unhappy, negative and often angry people altogether.

Constantly carrying an excessive amount of professional pressure can lead to a whole host of self-sabotaging behaviors that also affect one’s personal life. Alcohol, prescription medication or illicit drug abuse is quite common when an individual is unhappy at work. They might have trouble sleeping, eat poorly or not at all, stop exercising and generally neglect their overall well-being. As these contributing factors pile up one on top of another and despair sets in, they’re likely to become visibly depressed and withdrawn. If unable or unwilling to get the assistance they need, the overwhelming and negative effects become an unavoidable consequence.

This doesn’t have to be the case, however. Just like personal challenges, professional challenges belong solely to the person experiencing them. Professional challenges aren’t the responsibility of family, friends or anyone else.

I’m not suggesting you shouldn’t talk to your friends and loved ones about the troubling situations you face at work. In fact, trusted and caring family and friends can prove invaluable in learning to cope with workplace stressors. What I am suggesting — even urging — is that those who love you don’t deserve to bear the brunt of your frustrations.

Handled correctly, your home and personal life can offer a safe environment where you can take a welcome break from the stress, frustration and hardships you feel at work. It’s a profound and life-changing choice to leave your professional issues at the office and use your time with family and friends as a healthy “timeout” during which you can refresh and recharge. When you go home, truly go home by leaving work where it belongs, at work.

Realizing that life is not all about your work — that work is only a part of your life — will help you strike a successful balance between life and work that leads to greater levels of happiness and success both on and off the job. This mindset will serve you, and those around you, well.

In some cases, a different career path or another type of change is in order. I’ve worked with many business owners and team members who weren’t fulfilled and happy in their vocations. Their work simply didn’t align with their personal motivations, purpose, behaviors and competencies. These very same people also felt trapped by finances, fear of the unknown and a host of other self-imposed limitations. With guidance, they were able to overcome their limitations and have gone on to create exciting professional lives they enjoy.

If you find yourself struggling to be happy at work, at home or both, take the proactive step of seeking out a qualified coach who can help you understand the situation and how to make necessary changes. You might think the personal and professional aspects of your life aren’t connected, but they are. In fact, they have profound effects on each other. You want those effects to be positive, not negative.

Once you get back on track, both personally and professionally, it comes down to using your awareness and new-found tools to stay in balance. Even with the help of family, friends and a qualified coach, there will be days that don’t go well and take you to the limits of being able to manage your thoughts, actions, words and emotions effectively.

In the end, it really comes down to your attitude: When you’re happy and fulfilled at work, this is the very same person you bring home to those you love and care about.


Marcus Straub
Marcus Straub owns Life is Great! Inc. in Grand Junction. His personalized coaching and consulting services help individuals, business owners, executives and companies build teams, organizations and lives that are filled with happiness and success. He is the winner of the 2011 International Coach of the Year Award, and is also the author of “Is It Fun Being You?.” He is available for free consultations regarding coaching, speaking and trainings. Reach Straub by phone at 208-3150, by e-mail at marcus@lifeisgreatcoaching.com or on the website at www.lifeisgreatcoaching.com.

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This article was written for and published in collaboration with The Business Times newspaper.


Marcus Straub

Author Marcus Straub

Marcus Straub is Founder and CEO of Life Is Great!™ (LIG) Coaching and Consulting, Inc. based in Grand Junction, Colorado.

Serving individuals of all ages and companies of all sizes, in locations across the country and around the world, Marcus specializes in the development of customized programs tailored to meet the unique goals of each individual client. Purposefully created to guide those involved toward unprecedented personal, professional, and organizational growth, Marcus has become well-known for his straightforward approach and systematic techniques.